- Joanna, Los Angeles
I just got out of a bad breakup and the last thing I want is another relationship. I hope this doesn’t sound conceited but it seems every guy I meet now wants to run down the aisle. Maybe I’m giving off a vibe that doesn’t want to commit and this is about having what they can’t have. I don’t know. What do you think?
Hi Joanna, Thanks for your question! This is an interesting one. I always like a good role reversal! Now without knowing the exact details of the types of guys you are meeting, meaning their ages, if they have been married before etc…without knowing that I would say you have pretty much answered your own question. We all want what we don’t or can’t have… to a certain extent, of course. The fact that you are not out there searching for that man who is going to fit the ‘criteria’ and provide you with that large diamond ring and secure home, is exactly why you are attracting the marriage-minded men. Men, for the most part, fear the marriage-obsessed women that are hunting them down, so when they find one who isn’t, chances are he will revert to his inner instinct of the hunter and you will inevitably become his prey. Now if you could just start up some seminars for women out there, you could really help a lot of people out!
- Carla, Torrance
My guy’s birthday is 2 weeks away. We’ve been dating each other for about 3 months. Any gift ideas? I don’t want anything that reads as too much or anything that reads too little. Help me Anoush!
Hi Carla, Thank you for your helpful question - the first gifts are always the hardest! I fully understand that you do not want to say too much or of course, too little, if in fact you like this one – which it sounds as though you do.
If you have made acquaintances with any of his friends or family yet, it never hurts to put in a phone call if you are truly stumped. I personally like the avenue of something special that you could do together. I think this takes the pressure away from something tangible that could be over-analyzed! Perhaps tickets to a sporting event, if he is a big fan of any in particular. Maybe something fun, nothing too serious. If you guys can have a great day and create more new and exciting memories, I think that will be the best gift of all! Leave the serious meaningful gifts to years down the road! Let me know what you end up doing and how it goes.
- Bradley, San Diego
I’ve been seeing this girl I really like for 5 months. She is just amazing, except for this one thing. Last weekend I finally met her parents. Big day, very nervous. It went well, but I noticed two framed pictures of my girl and her ex-boyfriend. Not one, but two! One in the living room and one in their den like room. I don’t want to go over now and have this dude with my girl staring back at me. Do I say anything?
Hi Bradley, Thank you for your question and I can see why this is uncomfortable for you. I personally would suggest that you absolutely say something to your girlfriend. Perhaps she would find it odd if you did not. Maybe her parents were very close to this guy she dated before you but she no longer is and doesn’t like the fact that the pictures are up either. She must address this with her parents out of respect for you. If you had just been on a couple of dates I would say it is too early to say anything, but after 5 months, you are well within your rights to bring this up. Let me know how it goes!
- Trina, Toluca Lake
I asked this guy out that I know from work. It’s not a work thing; he’s just someone I see every so often. Anyway, he’s a man’s man. I want to take him somewhere cool and not too girly for a first date. What’s a great first date place that will make a macho man feel at home?
Hi Trina, Thank you for your question. My mind immediately jumps to an environment that all men love; a great steakhouse. At the new L.A Live in downtown Los Angeles is the incomparable Fleming’s Steakhouse. With 100’s of award-winning wines by the glass and every perfectly cooked to order cut of steak imaginable, there is no way this manly man will not feel at home! On a side note to you, you must try their peach champagne cocktail, it’s to die for! They have to have something for us girls right?
If he is even more manly than your average manly man and does not wish to partake in a glass of Merlot, there is a full bar and beer abound! L.A Live is lots of fun to walk around afterwards and I think you will find he will love it.
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